I remember when I was first interested in wanting to start a yoga practice.. I tried to talk everyone I knew into taking it with me. Good Lord I didn't want to go alone, way too crazy. Sisters, girlfriends, cousins, spouse, I couldn't fine any takers. Years went by and the more I read about it the more I wanted to take it and one day I just put my big girl pants on and went all by myself.
I was reminded of this the other day when two new students came in for class and a third friend who was suppose to join them didn't. Of the remaining two, one looked at the other and said "boy aren't you glad I came or you would have been all by yourself". Alone in a yoga studio? Highly unlikely. She said it has if it was such a bad thing, even though I am sure that she didn't mean it that way but that's how we perceive it. What is so bad about being alone with yourself. First of all most anywhere you go you really aren't by yourself. You are surrounded by countless others, you may not know them but you truly aren't alone.
Why are we afraid to venture out on our own? To try a new experience, meet new friends, to put our big girl (or boy) pants on and embrace the world. What is on your "to do" list that hasn't been done because you can't find anyone to do it with. What if you never find someone to do it with, if you continue on the path that you are on you will miss out on it.
A few weeks ago I was to meet a friend for lunch, we got our signals crossed and I ended up eating lunch alone and enjoyed my own company. I was tempted to go to the car and get a book, but I didn't. My neighbor went to the show by herself the other day to see a movie and enjoyed her own company. Of course taking a break from 2 active sons was an added bonus. And please explain to me why some women need a bathroom buddy? I have never understood that one.
Most often we aren't afraid to be physically alone but internally alone. That means we will have to have a conversation with our own thoughts. Horrors! What is so bad about being by yourself. What are you afraid of. Yoga and meditation is a discovery of self realization. Learning about our body and our mind, what makes us move and what makes us tick. No one else can do that for us or with us .
If I eventually didn't pursue my journey of yoga by myself I wouldn't have the wonderful full life that have today. There are no do overs in life. So listen up everyone, put your big girl or boy pants on and take that leap of faith....and just breathe.